2 Attachment Styles That Damage Relationships (Psychblog)
Happy Valentines Day everybody! I have loved this holiday since I was a little girl. Yet I have known many people who find Valentines Day to be “singles awareness day” or even just a remorseful day remembering someone that they’ve lost. I, however, see valentines day as a day to celebrate love which encompasses every aspect of such a beautiful emotion. Read more
When my parent finalized their divorce I was 21 years old. Luckily I was old enough to somewhat comprehend and rationalize through what was going on. However I know this isn’t an easy situation and so I wanted to offer some support and encouraging words to anyone who might be going through the same thing.
Even at 21 years old I was heartbroken when I found out my parents were getting divorced. Anyone who can relate understands the stress and trauma this brings. When you’ve grown up in a home where you have a family unit it is really hard to picture life any differently, thus this really can seem like the end of the world.
I remember when my parents were getting divorced I worried about a lot of things; how was my mom going to pay the bills? Where would my dad live? Are my parents going to be okay if they spend some holidays alone since I now how have to pick between them?
My advice to you is that no matter how hard it is, don’t worry about questions like this. Your parents are grown adults making an adult decision. It is their responsibility to figure out these tasks. As hard as it may be just remember that they are grown adults and they need to figure this out without you in the middle of it. It’s only going to add unnecessary stress and pressure on you when it’s not your responsibility.
I wanted to add a more positive note. I know while you’re going through the process this may seem hopeless and extremely disappointing. But I promise some of the best days of your life are yet to come. Both my parents have now remarried and it’s amazing how much love I’ve grown in my heart for my new step parents and siblings. I wouldn’t want my parents to get back together because of how much better they fit with their new spouses. They are both happier and in return I am happy and my heart is full of so much love for my new big family.
In short the two points I want to make are:
1. You shouldn’t take responsibility or worry about any “adult” related issues your parents are having. Just let them you know you love them and they will figure it out.
2. Better times are coming. When you’re going through your parents divorce it’s hard to see that something better is down the road. But you’re not at a dead end. There is so much happiness ahead just hold your head high and wait for it.
A few days ago I stumbled upon a funny coincidence. A guy I went to high school with had recently moved to Hawaii. A few days later I found out an acquaintance of mine had moved there also. Both of these individuals are recently married, both are videographers, and both moved to Hawaii simply for growing their Instagram and social media accounts.
I mean I get it. People love to see gorgeous pictures of the ocean. They love living vicariously through those who whose lives seem so adventuresome. I too love to travel and post about my “exciting” life on social media. It’s what people like to see. It’s what attracts followers and gains likes.
But here are some thoughts…
Unfortunately marriage isn’t what it was before. In fact there are more divorces now than ever before. With these statistics marriage seems frightening
To the Man Who Continuously Proves Me Wrong, thank you.
After 23 years of marriage my parents finalized their divorce only a few days before my wedding day. At the time I wasn’t aware of the impact this would have on me. I’m not sure that growing up I ever knew what a good relationship was. My parents were on their way to divorce, my high school boyfriend was a loser, and perhaps I just never witnessed healthy relationships around me.
Marriage was full of a lot of anxiety for me. Although nothing was wrong, I lived in fear that my marriage would fail just like my parents. I was insecure and it showed.
But something along the journey of marriage changed for me.
The biggest factor in this change was my unconditionally committed husband.
Thank you for showing me love and never ending committment even when I was difficult and insecure. Thank you for proving to me that marriage is what you make it. Thank you for never leaving my side and assuring me that regardless of what happens you’ll always be there for me.
As someone who used to fear marriage I now indulge in it. The best feeling in the entire world is having someone who is irrevecolaby there. Just there. By your side every moment of the day. I can’t thank my sweet husband enough for proving to me that marriage doesn’t have to be all bad. In fact it’s one of the most beautiful things we have in this world.
Thanks for changing my mindset. Thanks for proving me wrong.
I love you.
As I was growing up my neighborhood bordered the neighborhood of many wealthy families. I had one friend in particular who I thought was incredibly wealthy. As we got older my beliefs in this friends’ family’s wealth was confirmed when she was given an absolutely brand brand new car for her 16th birthday. Their family had the nicest things in life. They always had new cars, cell phones, a beautiful home, and they traveled frequently. The funny thing about money though is that it can be deceiving and easy to disguise. Read more
If you have kept up with any of my blogs previously you will know by now that I absolutely love social media. The other day I was on Instagram “stalking” some of of my favorite celebrities. I noticed a pattern that all of these celebrities were in to fitness in one way or another.
Today was one of those days where I lacked motivation. I wanted to come up with any excuse I could to just watch movies and not do anything with the rest of my day. Finally after dragging my feet, I forced myself to go to the gym. This was a game changer for me. I now feel refreshed. I came home and did dishes, laundry, and am now motivated to blog! It’s amazing the difference working out makes in day to day life.
After noticing a pattern between celebrities and fitness, and my own life and fitness, I was wondering if there was a correlation between fitness and success. It seems that so many people who are successful also have a gym membership.
Before we go any further I should mention that I am not a body builder, or even a fitness guru, but I do attend the gym on a daily basis. I have my husband to thank for this! I like the way working out makes me feel and I like the motivation it brings to my daily life.
I‘m not sure what the correlation is between fitness and success but I believe there is some. Perhaps its the endorphins that are released through working out that really drive people to pursue success in their daily lives. Or maybe it’s just the discipline an individual learns from attending the gym daily that crosses over into their personal career field. It could even be the confidence you gain as you work out daily.Whatever it is, I want to be a part of it.
If you are anything like me and find yourself lacking motivation I would suggest getting a gym membership. It’s amazing how attending the gym on a daily basis pushes me to be more successful in my career, relationships, and home life. Once you get out their you automatically feel better throughout the day.
Maybe it’s just me, but do you find any correlation between success and fitness?
As always thanks for reading. I look forward to your comments xoxoxo
We have all seen pictures of someone sleeping in the back of their van for weeks or even months while they are traveling the country taking pictures and videos of nature, food, rock climbing, etc. Often these people are into bouldering and eating “natural.” They are also most often unemployed. I, like many others, call these people hipsters. Being a “hipster” or “granola” is extremely trendy nowadays and has been for the past few years or so. That being said, here are a few reasons for why I didn’t join the hipster movement. Read more
As someone who graduated with a degree in political science, I hate politics. Read more