Alright let’s dive into a serious topic – marriage. Marriage has revolved drastically within the last 10 years or so. However it seems to be becoming more of an ancient tradition and less “desirable” per say. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention the rate of marriage per capita is decreasing. It seems more millennials are moving into together and having long term relationships without making marital commitments to one another. I understand that every relationship is different and has different circumstances. However, as a 22 year old married millennial (I’m young, I know. Perhaps that’s a post for another time!), I want to make an argument for marriage.  12718314_10207131377500480_7658384426319821643_n

Accountability 

Marriage makes both partners accountable to one another simply because of the law. When you decide to get married you make a binding commitment between a judge and your partner that this person will be your one and only spouse forever. The decisions you make in your marriage are held to a higher standard because legally you are accountable for this relationship. 

Selflessness

Let’s be honest. Marriage is scary. Millennials stereotypically have a “self-entitlement” behavior. One of the great self developing characteristics of marriage is that you learn to get over that selfishness rather fast.  Once you choose someone for life you soon realize that everything that used to be your decision is now “our” decision. This requires a lot of compromise and sacrifice, but what a beautiful world it creates! There is a certain type of advantage that comes when you learn the world is no longer about you and you begin making decisions that will make the life of someone else better.

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Commitment

Lastly marriage requires commitment. Now hear me out, I know you can be committed in any time of relationship. However marriage forces a couple to be committed to each other because of vows they made to each other, the law, and for some – God. Any relationship can have promises of commitment but marriage takes those promises to the next step and seals them together.

When you are dating someone you can leave the relationship whenever you want. If things aren’t going well you can pack up and move out. When you’re in a marriage it makes “leaving” a lot harder to do. I believe there is a benefit to this. Because there is no easy way out I believe marriage forces a couple to work through their problems rather than throwing in the towel early on.

I understand that all couples aren’t ready for marriage and there is no problem in waiting. Each relationship is unique and different and that’s what makes relationships so special. Yet I do believe that marriage is an old tradition for a reason. There is an underlying strength that comes from giving your entire life to someone else through the commitment of marriage. I have truly loved being married. It required me and my husband to take extra steps individually and well as together and in return bettered our relationship.

I understand this topic may be very controversial for millennials and other generations so I would love to hear your thoughts!

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19 thoughts on “Marital Commitment as a Millennial

  1. As a millennial also, although i am not married I value this type of commitment and find that while dating it is not a value many people seem to have. I struggle with this “Hook up culture”. I am about to be 20, and I am on the path of looking for something serious, whether that being a committed relationship or marriage would be wonderful too. It’s hard for me to wrap my mind around the fact that this generation just wants to “bang one out” (pardon me!) instead of having someone there for you continuously throughout everything in your life! I understand that most people my age are in college and getting “Lit” is much more important than being a respectable gentleman to a lady, but what happens to the rest of us who are above this generations mentality? Love your article, and best of luck to you!

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    1. Thank you so much for your thoughts. I felt the same way when I was dating. I felt like it’s a lot harder to have good relations these days because sooo many people are just interested in hooking up rather than something serious. I’m glad you want something more than that and I wish you the best of luck as well!

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  2. I got married when I was 23 and I started thinking it might have been a mistake after about six months. I ended up staying married for 17 years (another mistake) before getting divorced. Married a second time in my forties and have been happily married since. So I think I was too young to get married. I would advise that you live together and share a life, as you described, for a good amount of time before getting married.

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  3. “Millennials stereotypically have a “self-entitlement” behavior. ” THIS! I believe is also accounts for so many relationships and overall family unit failures. Before my husband and I got married, oyr commitment was do strong we would be filling out forms and complaining about the feeling of betrayal to each other when we had to select “Single” as our marital status. Beautiful piece. I agree with every last word

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  4. Great article! I was married at an even younger age and have been happily married for almost 12 years. My husband and I keep Christ as the center of our marriage.
    We’ve been through many difficult situations and trials but our marriage always comes through victorious!

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  5. I was married at 22, too! My husband was only 21. We’re still going strong over 5 years later, and just as happy that we made that decision now as we were then.

    Honestly, I think there are lots of advantages to a young marriage. A lot of change happens in the 20s and when you’re already committed you can navigate those changes together and grow closer through them. You figure out what “us” looks like in all that turmoil instead of figuring out what works for you and then trying to fit another person in later. So good for you for not being afraid to take the plunge!

    Also, your wedding pictures are GORGEOUS. Just saying. 🙂

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  6. I’m in my late twenties and feel that many want the idea of a marriage but unwilling to stick around when the waters becomes rough. I am not married but have been asked a few times. I personally feel now that marriage is rushed without getting to know the person…and end as quickly as it started. I know multiple successful marriages…most are of the older generation. When asked the secret to a long-lasting marriage I was told that giving up was never a opinion.

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