Alright let’s dive into a serious topic – marriage. Marriage has revolved drastically within the last 10 years or so. However it seems to be becoming more of an ancient tradition and less “desirable” per say. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention the rate of marriage per capita is decreasing. It seems more millennials are moving into together and having long term relationships without making marital commitments to one another. I understand that every relationship is different and has different circumstances. However, as a 22 year old married millennial (I’m young, I know. Perhaps that’s a post for another time!), I want to make an argument for marriage.
Marriage makes both partners accountable to one another simply because of the law. When you decide to get married you make a binding commitment between a judge and your partner that this person will be your one and only spouse forever. The decisions you make in your marriage are held to a higher standard because legally you are accountable for this relationship.
Let’s be honest. Marriage is scary. Millennials stereotypically have a “self-entitlement” behavior. One of the great self developing characteristics of marriage is that you learn to get over that selfishness rather fast. Once you choose someone for life you soon realize that everything that used to be your decision is now “our” decision. This requires a lot of compromise and sacrifice, but what a beautiful world it creates! There is a certain type of advantage that comes when you learn the world is no longer about you and you begin making decisions that will make the life of someone else better.
Lastly marriage requires commitment. Now hear me out, I know you can be committed in any time of relationship. However marriage forces a couple to be committed to each other because of vows they made to each other, the law, and for some – God. Any relationship can have promises of commitment but marriage takes those promises to the next step and seals them together.
When you are dating someone you can leave the relationship whenever you want. If things aren’t going well you can pack up and move out. When you’re in a marriage it makes “leaving” a lot harder to do. I believe there is a benefit to this. Because there is no easy way out I believe marriage forces a couple to work through their problems rather than throwing in the towel early on.
I understand that all couples aren’t ready for marriage and there is no problem in waiting. Each relationship is unique and different and that’s what makes relationships so special. Yet I do believe that marriage is an old tradition for a reason. There is an underlying strength that comes from giving your entire life to someone else through the commitment of marriage. I have truly loved being married. It required me and my husband to take extra steps individually and well as together and in return bettered our relationship.
I understand this topic may be very controversial for millennials and other generations so I would love to hear your thoughts!